so how does one go about changing one's maiden name when it was not changed on the marriage license? this has been bothering me for months now. you see, when we went to the county recorder's office to get our marriage license they had us sign it right there (which i thought was a bit odd at the time i'd always thought it was signed after the wedding, but i figured that i was just nervous and excited). when i asked how i should sign it, i was told to use my "legal name". now my legal name at the time was my maiden name (obviously) and all of my official documents (driver's license, passport, student visa, university registration, etc) had that name. since we were moving internationally in a matter of weeks, i was not about to change anything; but i wanted to be able to at some point in the future.
so i signed the marriage license with my legal name, my maiden name. and thought very little of it for the next year and a bit (except for when i had my passport stolen and needed to get it replaced...).
a few months ago my family was drawing up some legal documents and needed my legal name. my parents called and said that according to the lawyer, it was "whatever i'd put down on the marriage license". i was nearly shocked - i almost felt less married (which is completely silly)...
so now i'm stuck, i want to change my name to my husband's. but all of the instructions seem to imply that in order to do that with out going to court, i need to have signed the marriage license with the name i wanted to take. so now i don't know what to do...
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If I was more organized and hadn't tried to move into a new house while I was in labor, I would KNOW where my license was so I could look at it and see how I signed it. I remembered there being some debate. One of us wanted me to sign with my maiden name, and one of use wanted me to sign it with my "new" name that had not yet been legally changed, and not only can I not remember who was who, I can't remember how I actually signed it. I *do*, however, remember standing in line for too long at the DMV only to be told I had to go to the Soc Sec office first. Then the lady at Soc. sec tried to tell me that my marriage license was invalid. It was out of state, you see. (???? People with government jobs can't be fired, even if they are breathtaking idiots, I am here to tell you.)
Anyway, all this to say, I recommend (sort of) taking you license and your birth certificate and your gov't issued ID to the Soc Sec office, just to see if they *can* do it for you. They did, eventually, (that same day) do it for me, but, again, I can't remember if I signed with my maiden name or the "married" name.
Thank you darling! I will do toddle along to the Soc Sec office and see what they tell me...
I hope you all are happily settling into your new digs. Love to the little one!
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